I remember starring at my coach and asking
“But how do I practice loving myself more?” and she responded “Do the things you love.”

Do the things I love? This was a difficult one for me because as far as I can remember I have loved doing things for others and with others so how do I do the things I love on my own? What do I love to do? This was the next question I asked myself. I got home from the session and went straight on
to the web to find self love routines and boy were the results vague and presumptuous. That set me on a quest to really find out how and what to do when I had my self love days. I started making lists of the things I loved to do for and with others and believe me I developed a system for finding our what I personally love to do and could do for me that had nothing to do with shopping sprees or spa dates.

This was half way through my discovery of what self love meant to me, yes it is a personal thing for each and everyone of us and that is where knowing your love language comes in. The five love languages according to Dr Gary Chapman are Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Physical Touch, Gifts and Acts of Service. We normally would consider these more in romantic relationships in order to understand our partners, however I discovered that we tend to shower others with our love language. Yes, have you ever wondered why you feel drained when in a crowd of good friends doing too many things at once even tough you like to spend time with them but very happy when you are sharing quality time with just one of them? Or why you feel dissatisfied when you love keeping your surroundings tidy and would love to have your partner do it once without you asking?